Bon Secour, AL

The One Checked Bag Newsletter – Issue 6

Where I Unpack The Experience, Not Just the Itinerary

Issue 6 – July 15, 2026

Welcome to One Checked Bag.

The blog tells you where I went.

The newsletter tells you what I learned once I got there.

Sometimes that’s about travel. Sometimes it’s about life. Usually it’s a little of both.

This issue I am sharing with you an unforgettable moment that still lingers with me, as well as another that I regret. And just for fun, you’ll learn why I’m willing to risk life and limb for coastal cuisine—and why forgetting something may simply become part of the story.

Magical Moments

It seems to me that with every trip, there is one moment that stands out from the rest.

Sometimes it is an unexpected encounter, like the time we were whale watching and a humpback whale breached just feet from our boat, displaying its enormous pectoral fin as if waving to us before diving deep and disappearing.

Or a deep, emotionally heartbreaking experience, like the one we felt as we toured the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam.

Other times it is an occasion that puts the world and life in perspective. For me, it happened while camping in the Sahara Desert, looking up at a black sky filled with what felt like a million stars and galaxies.

These are examples of unforgettable moments that will be with me forever.

But one moment really sticks out to me that, honestly, I have a hard time explaining, partly because I have a hard time understanding what happened.

That moment was at Montserrat in Spain.

The day prior we visited Sagrada Familia, a magnificent cathedral in Barcelona that has been under construction for over 135 years. The basilica’s façade, its towers, and breathtaking interior form an architectural masterpiece.

I marveled at what had been built as a place of worship—a tribute to faith.

The next day we took a train from Barcelona to Catalonia to visit Santa Maria de Montserrat Abbey, a monastery founded over 1,000 years ago.

We exited the train and walked to the tram that would bring us up this tall, jagged mountain. It was a gorgeous morning. Blue skies and a cool breeze. And we could see forever.

As we ascended towards the monastery, I wondered how the monks chose this remote, and seemingly dangerous location, as I looked at the rock formations below.

When we arrived at the top, I looked below. How was it possible to get the materials needed to construct the building and the basilica up this treacherous terrain?

Again, it felt like a testament to faith—something I cannot say I fully understand, but whose power is hard to deny.

We entered the monastery and made our way to the sanctuary to view the Virgin of Montserrat, a wooden statue of the Virgin Mary and baby Jesus.

Known as one of Europe’s Black Madonnas, the statue has drawn pilgrims for centuries and is associated with numerous accounts of miracles, some say dating back to around 880 AD.

After spending a moment or two studying the statue’s detailed carvings, we stepped outside into the square in front of the church.

As we arrived, a cloud descended over the mountain. The brilliant blue sky disappeared, and within moments the monastery was wrapped in mist. We could barely see twenty feet in front of us.

It was unbelievable.

Was it merely a weather system passing through, or was it something divine?

I am not sure.

But add this to one of those magical moments that will not be forgotten.

The Road Less Traveled

So far, my One Checked Bag blog has chronicled some of my recent international travels. But not all my trips involve planes, trains, and language challenges.

Sometimes the road less traveled is not halfway around the world. Sometimes it is a two-lane road leading somewhere that allows you to just relax.

One of my favorite spots is less than a six-hour drive from home, yet it feels like a million miles from my hassles of everyday life.

It’s known as LA. Not the one in California, but rather the area they call Lower Alabama. Specifically the Gulf Shores area.

What I love about the area is the pace of life. Life moves more slowly there. The atmosphere is relaxed, and the people make you feel welcome.

My wife has an Airbnb property not far from Gulf Shores. Though I am not handy, I jump at every opportunity to help with touch-up paint, landscaping, or even hanging a ceiling fan.

And when I say I’m not handy, I mean my mother once refused to let me borrow my father’s power tools and gave me his handsaw instead. Within minutes, I had gashed my finger and was bleeding badly enough to confirm that she had made the right decision.

I have since hung about ten ceiling fans. Each one still takes five or six hours, and I’ve only miswired them and blown the circuit breaker a couple of times. So, technically, I’m improving.

Why do I keep on volunteering?

Because the food is amazing!

After tending to the property’s needs, I usually end up at The Tin Top Restaurant & Oyster Bar in Bon Secour. They have the absolute best char-grilled oysters. The restaurant sits along the lazy Bon Secour River, surrounded by live oaks draped in Spanish moss. It feels like a scene from a movie.

Getting there will definitely feel as though you are on a road less traveled. But trust your GPS even when you think you must be lost!

And during football season, I’ll go to Foley, AL to grab a double to-go order of Shrimp on the Go! Seafood Market’s seafood boil with crawfish and royal red shrimp. After a quick stop at Piggly Wiggly for a roll of paper towels—it’s impossible to neatly eat a seafood boil—and a six-pack of Fairhope 51, I am good to go. For the next four or five hours, I am in my happy place, devouring the feast and watching college football.

Not every getaway requires a passport, a long flight, or an ambitious itinerary. Sometimes all I need is a six-hour drive, a platter of oysters, a seafood boil, and four uninterrupted hours of college football.

That may not sound exotic. But to me, it feels like getting away.

What’s in My Carry-On?

In Buy Back Your Time, Dan Martell makes a compelling case for creating systems that reduce the number of decisions we make over and over again.

It made sense to me.

How many times have I packed a bag for a meeting, a weekend getaway, or a multi-week international vacation?

How often do I forget to pack something?

Every (stinking) time!

Why don’t I put together a checklist to make sure nothing is forgotten?

Brilliant, right? I can have a checklist for an overnight stay, another for a two- or three-day trip, and yet a third list for vacations over a week!

Oh, but wait. My cruise list would be different from my fall-in-New-England list. So let’s create a list for warm weather and another for cold weather.

Now that I am thinking about it, I should probably make a list of the lists I need.

There could be an endless number of lists for every possible situation.

And I will still forget something.

My advice? Make a basic list, pack the things that would be difficult to replace, and accept that something will probably be forgotten.

As long as I have my wallet, passport, and cell phone, I can make do.

Maybe that means wearing tennis shoes with a suit to dinner. Some people may consider it stylish. Others may wonder whether the airline lost half my luggage.

Either way, the embarrassment will last only a few hours.

The story may last much longer.

Of course, not every travel mistake becomes a funny story right away.

One Thing I’d Do Differently

Not long ago, I had a flight on Frontier from Atlanta to Baltimore.

Typically, if I have an issue with Frontier, it is over whether my bag exceeds the size limitations. This is common with the low-cost airlines.

But what happened that day was a first for me.

In hindsight, I regret how I handled it.

The seats in the first few rows cost extra.

If you have ever flown Frontier, you know the deboarding process can become a competitive sport. People from the back surge forward like there’s a cash prize waiting at the jet bridge. It can be frustrating and something I wish to avoid.

So in order to be one of the first passengers off the plane and get to my grandchildren as quickly as possible, I paid for a first row seat.

When it was time to board the plane, I handed my boarding pass to the gate agent, heard the “Ding” that it was accepted, and I proceeded down the gangway. While that was happening, I saw an older woman engaged in a conversation with another gate agent.

I didn’t think anything of it other than noticing that the older woman did something you don’t see often anymore—she dressed up for the flight.

I was in my seat for over 10 minutes when the nicely-dressed woman told me I was in her seat.

A flight attendant quickly came and looked at our boarding passes. We both had seat 1F.

Within a few minutes, the gate agent who was speaking to the woman came on board and asked me to collect my things and meet her at the ticket desk.

“You need to be assigned a new seat,” she said.

I initially asked politely how that could be. I had paid for the premium seat two weeks ago. My confirmation email reflected the seat I purchased. My boarding pass said 1F.

What was the issue?

The gate agent said that her computer reflected the seat as available.

Obviously it wasn’t.

Trying to remain composed, I acknowledged that I understood errors happen. I asked why I was the passenger being relocated, though my ticket had been purchased two weeks ago.

Her response set me off. “Because.”

That was it. No further explanation.

Let’s just say, my words were very choice, and very uncharacteristic for me.

“You can accept the seat I assign you, or I will gladly refund your money.”

At that point, I had three choices: accept the new seat and make it to Baltimore, take the refund and cancel the trip, or continue my barrage until security escorted me from the airport.

I chose the first.

As I made my way back on the plane, the woman apologized to me.

It wasn’t her fault, yet she handled the situation with the same class she showed in the way she dressed.

When I took my seat, about two-thirds of the way back of the plane, the steam from my ears turned to a low simmer.

I felt as though I was wronged.

But in any other situation, I probably would have offered my seat to the woman. Unfortunately, I allowed my emotions to get in the way.

Rather than being noble, I had to have it forced on me.

I still believe I had every right to question the decision. What I regret is the way I allowed my anger to take over.

I’ll try to be better next time.

And in case you were wondering, yes, I was caught up in the chaos of passengers rushing to the front as we arrived at the gate in Baltimore.

Zipping it up…

If you haven’t visited the blog, the address is www.onecheckedbag.com.

I recently published the final posts from our trip to New Zealand. I invite you to join our adventure as we left Wellington for Napier and Rotorua. I also had fun putting together a New Zealand Travel Q&A.

Our cruise to Roatan, Cozumel, and Costa Maya is coming up and I am excited to have three generations of our family together for that trip. I look forward to sharing with you what I learn from our multi-generational trip!

You can find me on my blog, Instagram, and Pinterest.

I’ll see you back here on August 1.

If you enjoyed this, forward it to someone you’d travel with.

—Stephen

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